The Canadian had a meltdown this week. He called me Thursday morning to ask if my sister was still looking for a roommate. Drew and I had sent an email to everyone we know a few weeks back in a (so far failed) attempt to find someone to take my room so that he and I could move in together.

The Canadian and my sister got along really well when he and I lived together, so for a few hours I was hopeful that this could work out. Drew wasn't so excited. Jana was 100% anti-. My sister was excited at first, but then became worried after The Canadian came to take a look at the apartment Thursday afternoon. She said he seemed desperate and anxious, and she was worried about how this would effect my relationship with Drew.

The Canadian called that evening to ask what was going to happen. I tried to avoid telling him no, because I know he's going through a difficult time right now. But when I said that it was a complicated situation he immediately got defensive and angry. He hung up on me. He left me a strange voicemail message. He wrote an aggressive email with the subject line "questions for drew" in which he asked "when did you start believing you had any say in other people's lives?"

Wow. Jesus.

I replied that it wasn't Drew's decision to say no, which was true. Drew hadn't made up his mind how he felt about it. And I had never even said no definitively! I had just said that I didn't think it was a good permanent solution.

What's the guy's plan, anyway? He doesn't have a job. He doesn't have a visa anymore. Why doesn't he just go back to Montreal? When I asked him on the phone what he thought he was going to do, he said he was was going to get married. To whom, he has no clue. He said he's going to get a job. Doing what, he's not sure.

He replied to my email. He said he was never talking to me again, and that he felt that he could kill someone or kill himself. Drew, being a sweet person, actually felt bad for him. Jana's head almost exploded: "I really resent him putting you in this position!" That's true... it was really unfair. It brought back all these feelings -- none of them good. The Canadian can be so cold. How could he not realize that having my ex-boyfriend live with my sister could be a problem for me? Because he's heartless and selfish, that's why. "Your sister needs a roommate and I need a room. What's the problem?"

He was right about one thing in his email, though. He said 'it's too hard to be friends with exes. Even with you." And that's definitely true. He's no friend of mine.

p.s. The next morning this happened, and Drew asked, "Does [The Canadian] drive an SUV?"